I am so sorry about the final loss of your father, and about the many times you lost him before his death. I lost my father in 2021. I miss him every day. But complicated relationships lead to complicated grief. I am glad you have a therapist and my prayer for you is that you are able to accept your dad for whom he was. It sounds like you are on the path to recovery. Best-L
I am so sorry. I read this with tears in my eyes, because I know the pain of being estranged from a very unwell parent. I know how complicated and heavy it is. Just wanted to affirm that you were right to choose yourself and your children. You could not save him from his illness, as much as you wanted to, because it was not possible and also not your job. Sending strength as you navigate this loss.
Take all the time you need to grieve. A grief counselor may help, she did me. A little book that’s been around also helped by Martha Hickman, it’s got helpful words for every day of the year but just open it and let it talk to you. It got me thru the darkest hours. You will get better though it may take a lot of tears and help. Be patient and remind yourself he loved you and so many love you. I am sending you love.
Kelly, I am so sorry for your loss. And relieved for the end of your father’s AND your suffering. And understanding that your grief will be a complex journey. Sending you strength and support for all of it.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful heart. The original intentions of our best selves will be fully released in heaven. Look forward to reuniting with your dear father for all of eternity. You have done very well in loving your parents, your husband and kids and I’m sure so so many others. Rest Kelly. Peace, love and joy in abundance to you and yours. ♥️
As someone who has a parent who has caused me a lot of pain, this was very resonant to me. I’m very sorry for your loss, and you sound like an amazing daughter. I’m sure he always knew that, deep in his heart, even if he left this earth without telling you so. ❤️
You have such a generous loving heart. Thank you for sharing a piece of your grief journey. I know you have many loving hearts (including mine) supporting you in the ongoing, nonlinear, herky-jerky healing process.
I am blessed to have you as a daughter. You are amazing in so many ways. May we all find peace.
I’m the blessed one
I am so sorry about the final loss of your father, and about the many times you lost him before his death. I lost my father in 2021. I miss him every day. But complicated relationships lead to complicated grief. I am glad you have a therapist and my prayer for you is that you are able to accept your dad for whom he was. It sounds like you are on the path to recovery. Best-L
Thank you so much, Lauren. Sending you love and grateful for your prayer.
I am so sorry. I read this with tears in my eyes, because I know the pain of being estranged from a very unwell parent. I know how complicated and heavy it is. Just wanted to affirm that you were right to choose yourself and your children. You could not save him from his illness, as much as you wanted to, because it was not possible and also not your job. Sending strength as you navigate this loss.
The generosity of this comment is so deeply felt. Thank you, Kari. Sending you love and appreciation.
Take all the time you need to grieve. A grief counselor may help, she did me. A little book that’s been around also helped by Martha Hickman, it’s got helpful words for every day of the year but just open it and let it talk to you. It got me thru the darkest hours. You will get better though it may take a lot of tears and help. Be patient and remind yourself he loved you and so many love you. I am sending you love.
I appreciate this so much. I'm ordering that book and will let it talk to me :) Trying to receive the love. Thank you
Kelly, I am so sorry for your loss. And relieved for the end of your father’s AND your suffering. And understanding that your grief will be a complex journey. Sending you strength and support for all of it.
This means so much to me, Amelia. I appreciate you, and this.
Kelly you are such an incredible writer and I’m so sorry for your devastating and complicated loss. Sending you all the love.
Thank you my friend ❤️
Oh Kelly, you are so amazing and wonderful. I am sending you my deepest condolences in this difficult and complicated time. Love you.
Thank you, sweet friend. I love you and I’m sorry I disparaged John Mayer 🫶🏻
Wow, such a powerful outpouring. Thank you for sharing and praying you and your family find peace.
Mandy Ling VanDenBerg
Thank you, Mandy ❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your beautiful heart. The original intentions of our best selves will be fully released in heaven. Look forward to reuniting with your dear father for all of eternity. You have done very well in loving your parents, your husband and kids and I’m sure so so many others. Rest Kelly. Peace, love and joy in abundance to you and yours. ♥️
I've read this comment about 10 times since yesterday and teared up each time. Thank you--this gift of words is deeply felt.
As someone who has a parent who has caused me a lot of pain, this was very resonant to me. I’m very sorry for your loss, and you sound like an amazing daughter. I’m sure he always knew that, deep in his heart, even if he left this earth without telling you so. ❤️
I'm so sorry for your pain, and really appreciate your kindness. Sending you love.
Oof. I’m so sorry - for all of this.
Thank you, Mary.
I’m sorry for your loss, I’ll give you a hug in person soon.
Love you.
Love you back, sis.
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I love you friend. Beautifully written, as always. Sending you lots of love.
Love you, friend. Missing you always!
You have such a generous loving heart. Thank you for sharing a piece of your grief journey. I know you have many loving hearts (including mine) supporting you in the ongoing, nonlinear, herky-jerky healing process.